Double Your Second-Date Chances by Cooking

Imagine you’re on a first date. You’re feeling nervous and excited at the same time. As you’re making conversation with your date, they ask you “Do you cook at all?” - Depending on your answer, you may or may not end up with a second date..

No, we’re not talking about cooking like Gordon Ramsay or Julia Child or any other chef. We’re talking about a simple, everyday person who knows how to make themselves a meal instead of buying takeout or going out to restaurants all of the time. Sure some people might think it’s not a big deal, but let’s take a look at what it says about you when you do or do not cook for yourself.

What Knowing How to Cook Says About You

There are a lot of indirect things that knowing how to cook says about you. For starters, you’re probably more financially responsible than someone who doesn’t. The cost of take out adds up quickly when you’re buying $5-10 breakfasts, $16-20 lunches, and $20+ dinners every day. For half the amount you might spend on takeout daily, you could get at least 3 square meals out of it. I don’t know about you, but I’m not interested in tying the knot with someone who spends their money frivolously. That’s just a travesty waiting to happen.

Unless you went to culinary school, you probably figured out how to cook by yourself (or learned from your parents which is also a positive trait). Being able to self-teach yourself something is skill that will make you more attractive. It shows your independence and willingness to persevere over an obstacle life throws at you. Ask yourself, would you want to be around someone who constantly gives up when things get hard or would you want to be around someone who figures things out and puts in the effort to become successful?

Having cooking as a skill also opens up the option for you to surprise your partner with a romantic homecooked meal. Sure there are fancy restaurants you could take them to, but it’ll never beat the intimacy of a meal prepared with love in your own home. Not to mention, there’s no subconsious thoughts about traveling to and from the restaurant or getting too comfortable. Less time traveling means more time for romance!

This last bit isn’t something you’d think about, but being well versed in cooking probably also means that you’re good with your hands. Cooking requires a certain finesse as well as strength and stamina. Take what you will from this statement, but I think y’all know what I mean.

What Not Cooking Says About You

To be clear, again, this isn’t to compare you to a professional chef or someone who’s going to make Thanksgiving dinner for the entire extended family. This is just an in-general, “Do you know how to turn your groceries into meals?” It can even be “Can you follow a recipe successfully?” - Not everyone does and even worse, some people refuse to.

So let’s take a look at what it indirectly says about you if you literally can’t cook anything and aren’t willing to give it an earnest try. For starters, you’d rather pay someone else to solve a problem than do it yourself. If you have TONs of money, sure why not. For the majority of us, this isn’t the case. Most people’s reaction to someone who only orders takeout or goes to restaurants more often than not is that they are bad with money. Being bad with money is a huge red flag and is a turn off for someone you’re trying to court. Even if it might not be a problem in the beginning, I can guarantee that it’ll cause issues in the future. The majority of marriages end because of infidelity or money. Both of which are easily prevented, don’t let your reluctance to cook be a factor.

Most people who don’t cook are also typically viewed as pretentious or spoiled. It might not be who you actually are, but it’s a natural response to someone when you hear that they don’t have a basic life skill. Remember, it’s one thing to not be a good cook. It’s a compeltely different story to not cook at all. Best to avoid being mislabeled, go figure out how to cook an egg or something if you don’t know how.

Does Cooking Make You More Attractive?

Yes, absolutely. Being able to tell your date that you cook or can cook is a big positive. It also opens up the door to seeing each other again; Inviting them to try your cooking one day is an easy way to line up your next date. I can assure you that if you’re a decent person (aka not some psycho), having the cooking skill in your tool belt will make you more attractive than someone else who doesn’t.

If you’re actually good at cooking, it’ll be impressive and give you brownie points. If you’re bad at cooking, it can still be good because it’ll probably be viewed as cute or adorable which is still brownie points. Either way, cooking can only be seen as a positive trait so there’s no reaosn you shouldn’t do it.